SAY THEIR NAME

He was one of the most important parts of my life for more than fifteen years. We traveled, we explored, we lived and loved. He made me his wife, and I made him my husband. We welcome two beautiful kids into the world, built a house and lived our dream. He held my hand when I cried, and he kissed …

FIVE THINGS EVERY WIDOWED PARENT WISH YOU KNEW ABOUT BACK TO SCHOOL

Tomorrow I send my babies back to school….again. It’s an exciting night for homes across the country, as kids prepare for a new year and parents trust their chosen school and teachers to help guide their children for a few hours each day. Outfits are laid out by the bed; school supplies purchased, and anticipation looms for both kids and …

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RAISING CHILDREN YOU DIDN’T CREATE

OCT27 RAISING CHILDREN YOU DIDN’T CREATE You didn’t help create them. You didn’t hold my hand over the nine months as they formed. You didn’t help pick their cribs, their names, or their first outfit. You weren’t there at their birth. You didn’t drive them home from the hospital. You didn’t rock them to sleep over their first year of …

THE #1 BEST THING ABOUT BEING WIDOWED!

THE #1 BEST THING ABOUT BEING WIDOWED! I’ll save you all the work of scrolling down through this text to find the answer to the teaser that is in the title of this blog. The best thing about being Widowed is: OTHER PEOPLE’S JUDGEMENT Whaaaaaaat?! Yes. Other people judging you is the number one best part of widowhood (having permission …

TELL ME ABOUT MY DADDY….

TELL ME ABOUT MY DADDY…. “Mommy, tell me about my Daddy please.” She looked at me with her big blue eyes, and she didn’t falter. It was the evening of her eleventh birthday, and the first time in eight years she had ever asked me to sit down and tell her about her Father. We talk about him often; he …

PICKING OUR BATTLES

Nearly three years ago I married my now husband Keith and added two amazing kids to my life. Keith, of course, added two kids to his life as well and we became a blended family of six. It’s complicated, as any mixed situation can be, with widowhood and divorce, but we opted to make the most of it and combine …

MARRYING A WIDOW

MARRYING A WIDOW This post was written in 2014 by Keith, Michelle’s fiance just a few weeks before their marriage. In a few days, I will be marrying my beautiful fiancee, Michelle. She will become my wife, but I am not so sure I will be the only man she thinks about for the rest of her life. In fact, …

STOP COMPARING DEATH AND DIVORCE

STOP COMPARING DEATH AND DIVORCE Please just stop. A few weeks after my late husband passed away was my first preview into the competitive world of, whats worse, death or divorce? and it made me infuriated. Here I was, a newly grieving widow, dealing with the end of life stuff, shock, two tiny children and tons of grief and someone …

WHEN YOU’RE OKAY

WHEN YOU’RE OKAY The past few days I spent in my old town, just a few doors down from the house we lived in when he died. This was also the house we brought our babies home to after their birth and the house he loved and adored. I sold that house about a year after his passing, it seemed …

AFTER THE KISS

AFTER THE KISS He kissed me softly and as he did, I tried to quiet my mind and stop the noise. I tried to live in the moment and embrace this new page in my story without expectation and without concern for what it meant to my past and for my present. I tried to enjoy that split second and …